This is session 1 of a 4-session course: Introduction to Focusing as action-oriented contemplation.
This first session provides a general introduction as well as an exploration of what it is to listen with empathy. The session consists of 3 parts. Ideally, listen to all of it. If you are pressed for time, you can just do the 2 sections marked with an asterisk (and highlighted in yellow).
– * Talk (33′)
– * Practice (2 exercises, 10′ each)
– Q & A (31′)
|* Talk (33′):|
The recording starts a few minutes after the beginning of the session. Participants were invited to imagine introducing themselves to the group (name, and where they are from). Then, they were invited to virtually say what it is that drew them to this course. Virtually, that is they all did it at the same time, while muted. The video starts with people describing what that experience was like for them, i.e. finding ways to describe an inner experience.
In the video below, not much happens visually – you just see the same slide. Except, at 26′ 20″, there is a 30-second video about Listening. Note: you can also see the “Listening” video on the “Listening” page.
If you’d like to come back to some specific topics in the above video, here are some markers:
|* Practice:As you saw at the end of the video above, participants in the live class were invited to practice empathetic listening in pairs. If you are taking this online class with a partner or a friend, please follow the same instructions. That is, for each exercise, take turns: one of you listens to the other and summarizes for 5 minutes; change roles for the next 5 minutes.|
If you are doing this on your own, I suggest you do the following:
Practice # 1:
What you’re going to talk about is moments when you felt listened to and moments when you didn’t. You will be describing the circumstances, and describing what it felt like inside.
Practice # 2:
Now, you will be talking about yourself as a listener. Moments when you were good at listening to other people, and moments where you were not good at it. Meaning either that other people felt dissatisfied, or you felt that you were kind-of faking it, you were not quite present with them.
Q & A (31′):
This video does not have any other visual than the title slide. What is of interest is the audio.
If you’d like to come back to a specific question in the above Q & A video, here are some markers:
– Using the same words vs summarizing: 0′
– Comments on the experience: 1′ 45″
– Using the same language: 10′ 20″
– Hearing what is not said: 12′ 15″
– Person 1 / person 2: 14′ 45″
– End of session: What we have learned: 20′
(includes: Uncertainty, Getting it right, Summarizing, Self-criticism)
Next: Go to session 2
I am offering this course as a fund-raiser for The International Focusing Institute (TIFI). I hope that you will make a donation to TIFI.